Defy Gravity

The 6 Step Method for Escaping the Effects of the

Emotionally Immature or Personality Disordered Parent

Tell me if this sounds familiar…

You want to connect…but you just can’t bridge the divide leaving you feeling far away from those around you.
You want to create space for yourself…but you just can’t give yourself permission.
You want to be more “you” in your relationships…but you can’t fight the compulsion to fake it, in order to people-please.
Your boundaries…non-existent.
Your need to be perfect…overwhelming.
And deep down inside, there’s a whole lot of shame.

You know better. You’ve read all the books. You’ve tried therapy, and gotten used to the looks of counselors who just don’t get it.

Friends who give you advice that you just can’t take. Because all the blocks keeping you from having the life you dream of aren’t just in your mind.

They’re in your body.

What if I were to tell you that there IS an ANSWER. That you can...

Build healthy boundaries that allow you to not only keep out what and whom you don’t want, but attract as well

Strengthen your ability to stay deeply grounded in your own experience, your own truth, even as you take enhanced pleasure in the exploration of others’ lives

Curb the compulsion to push others away when you really want to pull them close (or vice versa) and CHOSE to create more satisfying attachments

Conquer the gremlins of perfectionism and judgment, including the urge to lash out in judgment of others, and replace it with curiosity and adventure, even as you clear the way for excellence

Release yourself from toxic shame

Release yourself from your parents, or that part of your parents, that got you going down this painful path

Years ago, when I began treating trauma as a licensed psychotherapist, I heard the same story over and over again... the story of parents who focused on their own needs and not their children's, who neglected or even abused them. Who were, at the least, emotionally immature...and at the most, Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disordered.

My clients didn't need yet another Talk Therapist. They needed someone who could engage them at the root level...and pull out those roots! My combination of Somatic, Attachment, and Parts Work allowed them to go further, faster, and finally escape the pull of their parents.

And they were as successful online as they were in person.

Now I bring my Individual Coaching to you.

Consider adding the group!

When I began my group for those with personality disordered parents almost seven years ago, I did some research and I was flabbergasted!

Most groups were just educational. Talk skittering on the surface without the deep dive into the compulsions and obsessions that led my clients to sabotage their lives…

…Without the exercises that got them in their bodies, where the trauma lived.

…Without encouraging the remarkable sharing of thoughts, feelings, and experiences that my clients so craved as they sought people who understood

…Because they’d been there themselves.

So I started my groups, and wow, did my group members experience results!

Here's what individuals and group members are saying...

Learning how to lean on others for support as I do my own healing, learning how to accept help. I am able to ask for help more readily when I need it. I am able to state my preferences more comfortably, I feel I am able to take up more space in the world now, like I have a right to do so, and that others will see that as a gift and not a burden.

Casey L.

Inga to the rescue! When I met her, I was in shambles, worse than shambles. And I was alone. I'd just removed myself from my family of origin due to narcissistic abuse and BPD mother/codependent enabler dad. I didn't even know what hit me… She taught me new ways to look at my life to help me navigate this uphill battle, and she is such a comforting, soulful person on top of it all. Just what people like us need the most.

Kristen V.

The biggest growth for me was probably just in the areas of greater self awareness and self care—the greater ability to actually stay in my own experience and to even notice my own experience in the midst of stimulus around me.

Sam B.

I felt emotionally safe and like I could be my authentic self.

Ashley K.

Now, I’ve taken what I’ve learned - what people just like you have taught me about what you need

- and created a special online course just for you.

A course that you can absorb anytime, anyplace, on your computer or smartphone. It includes:

10+ BRIEF VIDEOS

Over ten videos exploring each of six crucial areas of healing; attachment, boundaries, connection, perfectionism, shame and forgiveness, so you can understand how you are uniquely impacted by these key affects almost all adult children of emotionally immature and personality disordered experience

7 ARTICLES

Seven articles, each with a voice recording to listen on the go if you don’t have time to read, each of which builds on the one before to completely reorient your understanding of what you needed, didn’t get growing up, and how to repair this now for the powerful life you deserve.

7 GUIDED VISUALIZATIONS & EXERCISES

Over ten guided visualizations and other exercises, as well as additional material from experts in this field you may have missed and which you can practice anytime, anywhere to strengthen self-confidence and build capacity for releasing your parents’ influence.

COMMENT FORUM

A comment forum for each module in which you can ask questions, explore concepts and receive feedback from me so you don’t have to figure this out all by yourself, and instead lean on the wisdom of others who know exactly what you’ve been going through.

Some take this course step by step, as each module builds on the last, but if you feel the urge to skip to a module that you need most now, don’t hold back!

Isn’t it time to leave your parent’s orbit, defy their gravity, and eliminate the bad habits that keep you from the life you deserve?

Click here to start your journey

Inga's Story

I’ve been a licensed psychotherapist for over 25 years, helping the adult children of those with emotionally immature and personality disordered parents uproot the toxic effects.

I’ve helped those with poor boundaries, profound loneliness, relationships that just don’t serve, hounded by perfectionism and judgment, crippled by shame, and the inability to let go of the powerful hold their parents still have on them - alive or not.

Since 2018, these same clients have gathered in groups to work through my proprietary system, “Defying Gravity,” in order to effectively release these effects - not only in their minds - but their bodies as well.

My work has embraced ground-breaking techniques, including those specifically designed to access trauma at its roots - in the body. I’ve given presentations and classes on the use of somatic practice to Colorado practitioners, Rocky Mountain AEDP, the Colorado Society for Clinical Social Work and Innate Path.

This course is not only the culmination of years of experience and training in Somatic Experiencing, Voice Dialogue parts work, Attachment Focused Therapies including AEDP and EFT, and Yoga for Trauma. It is a passion project, because I grew up with parents with personality disorders, and I know what it’s like - from the inside out.